I love and seriously respect that Idina realizes that she’s tweeting to young, impressionable girls that really will believe her when she tells them they are beautiful!
Yes! I’m almost in tears that she is doing this! All the awards to Idina!
[Scenario: Girl waiting at a bus stop, leaning against the sign]
Girl: (quietly minding her business, browsing Instagram on her phone.)
Group of women: (waiting at the cross walk a couple feet away)
Strange Man: “How you doing ladies?”
Man: (approaches bus stop and touches Girl’s shoulder) How you doing?”
Girl: Don’t touch me.
Man: I’ll be glad not to touch you. I’ll be glad. Damn.
This happened to me yesterday. I’m a very anxious, quiet and private person who very much values her personal space. I have a “bubble” and have a fear of being touched by people I don’t know at an almost phobic level. Aside from that, this was a man I have never met and so in my opinion, and the opinion of most girls I know this is highly unwelcome and inappropriate. And when I told him not to touch me he got all pissy and decided to insult me instead. Except that he voluntarily fucking touched me and approached me. You don’t get to harass me and then insult me. Don’t get mad that your entirely unwelcome and inappropriate approached got rejected. Maybe learn that it’s not ok and fix your outlook.
What pisses me off the most is that I know 100% that if Sunny had been with me it never would have happened. I’ve lived in this city for 3 years and only this summer has this been an issue for me. It’s to the point that I don’t even want to leave the house alone because I feel like if I don’t have Sunny with me I get harassed. In May it was a homeless man getting irritated that I honestly had no change to give him, who harassed me twice. And the same day another man, who I was simply polite to because I’m not an asshole, took that as a sign that I was interested, who then hugged me with out warning before he got off the bus—I had to get off at the same stop and was so scared he would follow me home that I hid behind the bus stop for several minutes before going across the street to CVS to dawdle for 30 minutes so I could be relatively sure he was gone. And in March or April (I know it’s not summer) another man who called me a “fat white bitch” because I cut him off at his own game because I heard him give the same opening line to another woman. And mind you, he YELLED this in an indoor public space.
All of these things happened when I was ALONE and minding my own business. I wasn’t making eye contact, I wasn’t even looking at these people. In the instance yesterday and the two instances in May I was waiting at a bus stop. In another I was having lunch on my break from school at McDonalds. It has to stop. I know my situations haven’t been as bad as they could have been, that people have experience things 1,000 times worse. But if even this little things can freak me out so much, how do those people even leave the house? It’s frustrating and disgusting. I just want to be left alone when I’m in public. I don’t want to make friends, I don’t want to be touched, I don’t want to be harassed by crazy people, I don’t want to be hit on, I don’t want to get a new boyfriend. Fuck off. Women don’t belong to you. At all. I shouldn’t need my boyfriend with me to feel safe.
I would also like to point out that in all these instances I was wearing pretty frumpy clothes. Flannel, or men’s tshirts and jeans. Not skirts or low cut shirts. Not that if I was it would be ok… But still. It just goes to show that it doesn’t matter what size you are, or what you are wearing. Predators still gonna be a predator.
Destroy the assumption that all fat girls have low self esteem. You don’t like my body? That’s on you, not me.
i can’t tell you how many times i’ve spoken up about harassment only to be told to “learn to take a compliment”.
since when do “compliments” intrude on my space? what kind of “compliment” makes a person feel unsafe or threatened?
harassment isn’t a compliment. know the difference.
Staying up late has it’s perks! Haha #evenstevens And #lizziemcguire is next! Yessssssss! #imanadult
One of these days I’ll post on time again. Day 20 of #30for30crafting. #wip #crossstitch #irishblessing
Day 19 of #30for30crafting. That “M” took a lot longer than I expected. :) #wip #crossstitch #irishblessing #sneakymanishot